I need some advice. :/

**shaae_26** · #1 March 20th, 2022, 10:20 AM

So, I'm pansexual, and I currently have a gf, but I'm not rlly attracted to her anymore, lately I've only rlly been into guys, how would I tell her? Shes younger than me too, only 11.

**shaae_26** · #2 March 20th, 2022, 11:48 AM

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**poppy** · #3 March 20th, 2022, 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Void.

So, I'm pansexual, and I currently have a gf, but I'm not rlly attracted to her anymore, lately I've only rlly been into guys, how would I tell her? Shes younger than me too, only 11.

I think that what's most important is that you're not stuck in a relationship that you don't feel any attraction in, and that she's not being led on. Just explain to her that you really like her, but don't feel that way abt her anymore, and if you're comfortable just explain that you have been experiencing more attraction to guys, so she understands she didn't do anything wrong. Like I said, it's important to be in a healthy fulfilling relationship where the attraction is mutual

**Zesha** · #4 March 20th, 2022, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Void.

So, I'm pansexual, and I currently have a gf, but I'm not rlly attracted to her anymore, lately I've only rlly been into guys, how would I tell her? Shes younger than me too, only 11.

I agree with poppy, just be honest. Tell her that you're just not feeling the attraction to her anymore, through no fault of her own. You may wish to wait a few days though if you have any kind of mental illness, as those can tend to make you feel like you've fallen out of love with people when you're having a rough patch. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck and the very best

**Riverfly** · #5 March 20th, 2022, 02:14 PM

Oh, don't worry! Were here to help you! I've had the same problem (I wouldn't call it a problem) too! I would suggest telling her very VERY calmly and nicely, as not to break her heart. Try not to make it too sweat and sugarcoated though, or she might not take it seriously and you won't get your point across.
@Void.

**shaae_26** · #6 March 20th, 2022, 07:16 PM

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Originally Posted by poppy.

I think that what's most important is that you're not stuck in a relationship that you don't feel any attraction in, and that she's not being led on. Just explain to her that you really like her, but don't feel that way abt her anymore, and if you're comfortable just explain that you have been experiencing more attraction to guys, so she understands she didn't do anything wrong. Like I said, it's important to be in a healthy fulfilling relationship where the attraction is mutual

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Originally Posted by Zesha

I agree with poppy, just be honest. Tell her that you're just not feeling the attraction to her anymore, through no fault of her own. You may wish to wait a few days though if you have any kind of mental illness, as those can tend to make you feel like you've fallen out of love with people when you're having a rough patch. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck and the very best

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Originally Posted by Riverfly

Oh, don't worry! Were here to help you! I've had the same problem (I wouldn't call it a problem) too! I would suggest telling her very VERY calmly and nicely, as not to break her heart. Try not to make it too sweat and sugarcoated though, or she might not take it seriously and you won't get your point across.
@Void.

thank you all, I will try these. <3

**Starfall** · #7 March 20th, 2022, 07:35 PM

@Void.

Heyo, so I wouldn't ask for advice pertaining to relations on a Cat Roleplay site. I'd talk to any adult figure you have rather than speaking to strangers online...all around your age or a little older.

I understand you may be more comfortable around this site, but here is not the place to talk about relationship advice...especially if you're elementary-middle school.

**shaae_26** · #8 March 21st, 2022, 06:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Starfall

@Void.

Heyo, so I wouldn't ask for advice pertaining to relations on a Cat Roleplay site. I'd talk to any adult figure you have rather than speaking to strangers online...all around your age or a little older.

I understand you may be more comfortable around this site, but here is not the place to talk about relationship advice...especially if you're elementary-middle school.

alr, I mean, I often come on here for advice, and bc my parents dont support me for anything I thought I would ask. I felt like I was vague enough though that it couldn't hurt to get advice on here.